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NZ is weird.....http://www.stuff.co.nz/the-press/news/5699861/Guilty-plea-for-toon-porn
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Never understood the "under certain circumstances" argument, because what you are effectively saying is that it is wrong to essentially murder what would become a child, unless the mother was raped, in which case, then it is suddenly ok to murder a innocent child? I don't understand the position. Regardless, a fetus isn't a child, it is a fetus. What is has is the potential to become a child. It does fall under the scientific conditions of "life," so there is no argument from me there, but so does sperm. Your going to have to create a few more laws in addition if you want to outlaw abortion on the basis of it being "life."
Anyways, like someone else said, it is gonna happen either way.
I do not believe that these women in any way deserved to die because they did not want or could not take care of a child. I also do not believe that the only kind of women who utilize abortion clinics are irresponsible or promiscuous. So in the case that my sister, or my friend, or a young married woman who isn't ready to become a mother, or any other woman becomes pregnant by accident and feels that she cannot go through the emotional and physical strain of carrying an unwanted child, I want them to be safe. I want them to have access to a hygienic, government-approved facility for a hygienic, government-approved abortion. I want them to live.
However, I know that I cannot live other people's lives for them. I can also understand the reason behind it sometimes, such as a pregnancy from incest or rape, or to save your life because of a health problem- understand but still not support. I was nineteen when I got pregnant, and both my then-boyfriend and I agreed that though it was too soon, the life was too precious to destroy, or to regret. My son is 8 months old now, I'm married, and to the very last cell in my body I do not regret it. I love him so much, even if things are harder now I can't blame him for it, because it was MY choices that caused him to exist in the first place. I knew what could happen when I was intimate with my boyfriend, and I could not hold the baby responsible or punish him for my choice. Even if I had conceived out of tragedy, by someone hurting me, or if there was a health problem, I know I would still make the same choice.
Still, as I said, I respect other peoples' rights to make their own choices and have their own beliefs. The only situation I will actively lash out at someone is when some stupid bitch who is too lazy to use protection but won't stop sleeping around gets her eighth abortion because to her it's an acceptable form of birth control and she doesn't see anything wrong with it. I've known people like that, and to me that is so disgusting I feel ill. If you want to screw your brains out and won't use protection, then get yourself spayed so you don't keep punishing your children for your own choices.
That said, from my point of view and how I have reflected upon it through the years: It falls on those girls' and boys' parents/guardians for not properly teaching them how to appropriately protect themselves while engaging in those activities. The men should also know better. The blame falls on both parties. And when one doesn't want to use protection, then the other should then say, "then sorry, honey, no go."
Parents now a days think the school system is responsible for raising their children, or they think that if they don't educate their sons or daughters about sex then they won't do it, which isn't the case. Never is. Granted, there are responsive parents, but the ones I see are few and far between.
So: Although they should be more responsible, I believe it is best because those children are not raised in a household where they're needs and necessary guidance are not taken priority, thus continuing the horrible cycle.
Regardless of what you or I have to say on the matter, it happens, even if we post our opinions on journals or blogs like this. The only thing we can do is raise our offspring properly and to the best of our ability with knowledge on the subject and knowing when it is proper to have children, when to say "No" and so on. That's all you can do, from that point on it is on them as they mature and develop their own opinions.
I know there are plenty of people who weren't taught properly, but in this day of extreme information, at least in this country it's impossible to live your life to sexual maturity and not at least hear about birth control. But there are too many kids and not enough people spreading useful information for it to sink in.
However, it's not all lack of education that leads to those girls I mentioned in the last paragraph of my comment. There is also an attitude of apathy that says, hey, who cares? The people I've known like that did not have the excuse of parents who did not raise them to know better; they simply did not give a damn one way or the other about themselves or their potential children.
I do agree with your last paragraph; it is up to us to try and make a difference firsthand by teaching our kids better. Some people (who upset me greatly) say that because I don't believe in abortion or that I have Christian beliefs I'll brainwash my kids into thinking it's better to have eight kids and as many STDs than to have an abortion; no. I will teach them what I believe, but also how to be smart enough to make choices for themselves. If all I did as a parent was raise my kid to be a clone of me and have no ability to think for themselves, then I failed.
About apathy: maybe, but from firsthand experience my mother promptly got me and my sister out of that mind set by giving us attitude adjustments, just in laziness in general. In hindsight I see how they grow into it however. When the drive to retain it isn't there. So that was one option I never considered. Good job.
Incredibly depressing. But still, I think that if their parents had raised them with their hands instead of their wallets, it wouldn't be so bad.